Living with a Humble Heart
The Life-Changing Benefits of Biblical Humility in Motherhood, Faith, and Healing.
In a culture of self-promotion, could humility be your secret weapon for peace?
Here's what I’ve learned about strength through surrender — and why it changes everything.
Heart Service — Principle One
What comes to mind when you hear the word humble?
Were you ever taught how to live humbly — or has life gently shown you along the way?
Take a moment. Let this word settle in your heart.
Humble.
This word has been stirring deeply in me lately. I’ve been part of a women’s Bible study — a short four-week journey through Revelation — and every Tuesday at 10 a.m., I found myself looking forward to what felt like sacred time.
It wasn’t just about the study itself. It was the women — the softness, the honesty, the stories. Some shared of leaving abusive marriages, others of raising six children. Some were walking closely with Jesus while their loved ones resisted the faith. Week by week, I found myself being humbled — not just by the Word, but by the raw, beautiful lives unfolding in front of me.
Next week we’re invited to share our testimony — what God has done in our lives through this study. And when I reflect on what He’s doing in me, one word rises above all the rest:
Humble.
How I First Learned Humility
Growing up, I was taught to be humble in sports — don’t brag, don’t show off. And while I often ignored that advice (hello, ego), the consequences of pride always found their way back to me. In small ways and big ones, I was learning that humility wasn’t about hiding. It was about something deeper.
Now, as a wife, a mother, a connection coach, and most importantly a disciple of Jesus — humility means something entirely different. It’s no longer just about being modest. It’s about being surrendered.
Two Definitions of Humility
Webster’s Definition:
“Having or showing a modest or low estimate of one's own importance; not proud or arrogant.”
Biblical Humility:
Not about thinking less of yourself, but thinking of yourself less.
It’s recognizing God’s sovereignty, your dependence on Him, and living with a heart that is open, yielded, and grounded in grace.“He has shown you, O mortal, what is good. And what does the Lord require of you?
To act justly and to love mercy and to walk humbly with your God.” — Micah 6:8“Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility, value others above yourselves.” — Philippians 2:3
The Heart Shift of Humility
When I read these verses, my soul exhales.
The biblical definition feels like rest. Like soft surrender.
Motherhood, life, and this wild human experience are too much to carry alone. And maybe… they were never meant to be. The weight is often what brings us back to God — to remember we are not meant to do it all, but to walk humbly, leaning fully on the One who can.
This is what I now believe:
A humble heart invites God in.
It creates space for healing, truth, and transformation.
It’s the soft soil where grace can take root.
Why Humility Is So Powerful (Even Science Says So)
Modern research backs this up. Studies show that humility improves emotional intelligence, strengthens relationships, and even makes for better leaders. According to the Journal of Positive Psychology, humility is closely linked to greater well-being, openness to feedback, and resilience in times of struggle.
But beyond research — humility opens the door to divine intimacy.
“God opposes the proud but gives grace to the humble.” — James 4:6
Humility Is Not Weakness — It’s Alignment
Let’s be clear: humility doesn’t mean you shrink or disappear.
It means you stop trying to be the source — and you become the vessel.
A humble heart:
Feels lighter — because it releases the need to be perfect.
Feels freer — because it no longer needs to prove anything.
Feels clearer — because it listens for God instead of chasing applause.
Practicing Humility (Soft, Simple Ways)
Begin the day by saying, “God, lead. I’ll follow.”
Ask questions instead of offering answers.
Let go of needing to be “right.”
Say thank you. Deeply. Repeatedly.
Apologize when you're wrong — not to shrink, but to grow.
A Question to Sit With
In a world that shouts for more, will you trust that your strength is in surrender?
Heart Service Reflection
In the quiet posture of humility, you will meet God — not the version who fits into your plans, but the One who gently reshapes your heart.
The world may tell you to stand tall and make your name known,
but Heart Service begins by bowing low — by remembering that we are held, chosen, and sent.
This is the first principle:
A Humble Heart.
Because everything begins with surrender.
Pride will always have its consequences. Humility will always have its reward.
With a heart full of grace,
Lauren 🤍
Heart Service | Connection Coach
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